Last weekend I had the luxury of being able to drive my car to the Capital City to attend a garden expo. A place where gardeners and purveyors of gardening supplies could come together to talk about gardening and participate in the always lucrative market of buying and selling of the latest gardening goods. Many inspirational talks where given and I purchased some mushroom spawn, flower seed, and a welded metal sunshine wall hanging to hang on the side of my house, in an attempt to bring me joy on gloomy days.
I left the conference feeling pretty good about myself and
the coming spring, despite the freezing temperatures that were returning. To celebrate the day, my wife and I left our
comfortable hotel and ventured out for a night on the town in the shopping district
down the road from the State Capitol. We
walked and talked and ate some delicious food and then while walking back to my
car parked across from the Capitol to return to our hotel room, we came across a
man walking on the sidewalk towards us who asked if we could “help the homeless?”.
My spirit dropped when I first saw the man coming towards us,
as I instinctively knew that he too was looking for a way to spend some of my money
in the market exchanges that I could freely participate in. For him, the path to participation relied on
obtaining some money from someone like me, who might be willing to share a few extra
dollars. One thing that is for sure in
our market driven economy that is dominated by the haves, is that if you
venture out of the home gardens, you will encounter the have-nots, the
homeless, or the formerly labeled hobos lurking in the shadows.
When I encounter such unfortunate folks, I tend to rationalize
my inability to really change the situation and justify not giving them any of
my hard-earned change, by reminding myself of one of my litany of assumptions like: the man probably will only use the money to buy intoxicants in some form or another
(mostly a projection of my own practices), or tell myself that if he really
wanted help there are likely homeless shelters he could spend the night in
(despite the fact that I would never want to stay in such a place), or there are social
service agencies who could help him to get his life back in order (despite the
fact that I avoid like the plague trying to work through insane government bureaucracies
for any sort of help) or even that perhaps the life he chose as a homeless
person is actually one of parties and freedom and adventure of life on the open
road (which is easy for me to think when I can return to my comfortable and
oversized heated garden home whenever I get tired of life on the open road,
which in his case likely entails spending the night under a blanket on a
sidewalk).
With that rationalization under my belt, my response to his
request for assistance was “sorry man, but have a good night”, a phrase I believed
treated him with respect, but would not enable what I believed would result in
a night of intoxication. Although I was
not sure that I heard his response correctly, I was a bit shocked when what I
thought him say in response was “Fuck Off!”.
This sparked my own response to my unfortunate wife with more
of my rationalizations for how dare him tell me to “fuck off”. I am not responsible for his situation, and
if was to give all my spare cash away to the homeless people we encountered (I think
he was probably the third or fourth such person we had encountered that night)
I might be joining them. I suggested to
her that he might be better off going into the capital across the street when
the politicians returned to work and tell them to “fuck off”, for I did not
have the power to change this big picture problem of the global economic system
that starves the poor to feed the rich (or something to that affect).
As we drove back to our hotel room, I continued my rationalizations/rants and thought well maybe I should give him all my money, but knew that would not help
the other homeless folks. I thought
maybe I should have offered him a ride to our hotel and bought him a room for the
night, but figured he most likely would just spend the next night back on the
street looking for handouts. Could I
offer him to come back and live with me in my oversized house where I could
teach him to garden, but figured that he likely had mental illnesses and
addictions that likely would prevent him from being able to learn from my
enlightened offer.
Eventually, with some incite from my wife, when I stopped
trying to justify my response, I accepted that his succinct recommendation to “fuck
off” was most appropriate in regard to my own thoughtless suggestion that he “have
a good night” likely trying to sleep sober on a side walk while the temperatures
dropped below freezing. Being told to “fuck
off” is never an easy suggestion to hear.
It triggers my anger response, it makes me dig in, or retreat, but more
often than not, when I attempt to deny the realities of a “fucked up” economic
system and try to justify my own benefits from living in this system, than I
indeed deserve to be told to “fuck off”.
This man was basically just doing the necessary job he had
to do to survive in the economy of haves and have nots where the haves need
reminders now and then that if they don’t do their jobs, they may have to join
the ranks of the have nots. And for
those have-nots who receive the fortunate hand out now and then, they provide
the other “feel good” reminder that money can indeed be a source of good in the
world. Acts of charity not only help
those who receive the handout, they also help the haves to feel good when they
share some of their change. Which despite actually being “fucked up” is a
reality that makes our world go round.
Oh well, in the end, I am pretty sure that I am just doing
more rationalizing about my good fortune of being where I am in the big scheme of
things, and perhaps just need to be thankful that the man only suggested I “fuck
off” instead of proceeding with what I probably deserved which was a good “fucking
up”. I am not sure if this profane
message will change much in our” fucked up world”, but it has given me “food
for thought” as I continue to enjoy the comforts of my garden home. I hope it helps to continue to “wake me the
fuck up” to the realities of a “fucked up” economic system and maybe one day
getting to experience a system where everyone gets a chance to have enough, which
is probably just hopeful thinking on my part. And in the mean time think more about a better response for the next time a less fortunate person asks me for help. Or perhaps a better plan would be to hope that the uncomfortable feeling I get, when confronted with the extreme inequality that is the foundation of our fucked up economy, does not go away. Because I fear that if it does, I have succumbed to the insanity that also directs the whole fucked up system.
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